Helping children talk about worry
A calm framework for noticing worries, body clues and the next manageable step.
Written by Jonathan Hewston • Reviewed October 2026
Begin with what the child notices
Instead of starting with “why are you anxious?”, try concrete observations: what happened, what did your body feel like, what thought showed up, what happened next?
Make worry external enough to discuss
Stories and metaphors can give children some distance from a difficult feeling. Talking about a wave, a storm or a character can sometimes be easier than talking directly about themselves.
Keep the next step small
When worry is high, a large instruction can feel impossible. Focus on the next manageable action rather than solving the whole situation at once.
Do not promise that nothing bad will happen
Reassurance can help, but certainty is rarely possible. More useful language can focus on coping, support and what the child can do if the worry appears.
Know when a book is not enough
Persistent or severe anxiety may need support beyond an educational resource. Families and schools should use appropriate professional routes when concerns are significant.
How Wavy Worries fits
Wavy Worries gives children a visual journey for discussing worry, body clues, uncertainty and calming strategies with a trusted adult.
Evidence and boundaries
This guide is educational information, not individual clinical or diagnostic advice. For the evidence sources and claim boundaries used across the site, see the Evidence Centre.